8 dating my teenage daughter
Should we have discouraged any innocent pretensions to prettiness at all?The parents of one of my own schoolfriends banned TV.And I should acknowledge that, when not waving a mascara wand, she plays chess far better than I ever could and passes exams with a studied diligence she might otherwise reserve for an out-of-place eyelash. As I write this, she is upstairs reading Paradise Lost. And since Sarah wears the stuff herself but also has a science degree (proper science, she reminds me, unlike mine in Economics) and helps run a very substantial advertising company, who am I to make a fuss? The politics and the psychology of beauty (not just the industry but the actual thing: beauty) are hugely complex and more than skin-deep. Young Kit, who remember is only seven, now has a mere 15 minutes to get ready. There is an industry out there — a booming and highly sophisticated industry — trying to capture their sweet, unspoiled faces and lure them into a world much older than their years.
Dear Abby: I consider myself a relatively "normal" female.Please understand, this girl has a lavish bathroom of her own connected to a princess-style bedroom that contains everything a girl could ever wish for. When she visits, she never sets foot in her own room or bathroom.I haven't said anything to Jenna because I don't want to upset her, but I think it's inappropriate for Jim to continue allowing her to sleep with him. I have voiced my opinion before, and it has caused several heated arguments. SLEEPING WITH ONE EYE OPEN, Dear Sleeping: Although it is common for some parents to share their bed with infants or toddlers, it is far less so for a father and his teenage daughter.Most of all, it’s the level of concentration devoted to the whole rigmarole that I find so alarming. So when Mum read her book The Second Sex it led to an awakening. For by responding to the pressure to peer into it, women are complicit in turning themselves into objects to be looked at. Tell her you can care about your eyebrows and your job and she’ll be raising hers from beyond the grave. Being interested in make-up is not a sign of being controlled by other people, or wanting to be controlled by them. And its message is as deeply relevant to my daughter and her generation as it was to my Mum’s, because the message is not about whether you can get a good job and go where you want and wear what you like — all freedoms Martha has that Mum did not — it’s about what it means to be a woman. Of course, life has changed hugely since de Beauvoir was writing after World War II and women today can care about their looks and have fulfilling careers. I am not the slightest bit worried about what people think I look like — or at least no more worried than you are when you shave before going to the Today programme studios.